Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Failing First Date Questions: What's In Your Fridge?

I don't date very much.  In fact, I haven't dated in over a year.  The last time I dated someone, it was a second date, and while we had a nice time, it was difficult to tell whether there was any interest on her part for a third date.  When we next conversed, she told me she assumed I wasn't interested in another date with her.  I guess, since we both came to the same conclusion, it wasn't meant to be.  So no third date.  And that's just as well.

I talked to my wonderful daughter, 11 years young, about whether she likes it when I date, and she said no.  It's difficult for her to see her daddy date, since she's really never known a life where she has had to share me with someone else.  My wife passed away when she was 5 months old, so life as she knows it is just the two of us (and Faithful Pup Scout).  There's just no room in her life for another person.

So, while I have dated a few times, and even came close to considering a new marriage relationship, it is clear that I'm not going to be dating much until my little girl goes off to college.

That said, I was thinking about some of the questions that I've been asked, and questions I've asked, on first dates.  And I decided to see what kind of good questions are out in the inter web, just in case I change my mind and find myself on an unexpected date.  Here's a few that I found at eHarmony's website, along with my answers to those questions:


  • What's in your refrigerator?  I'm excited to say that I have a brand-new fridge, and it is pretty cool.  There's all kinds of digital readouts on the door, including temperature, and while I hate having to clean it, the stainless steel on the outside is nice.  As for what's on the inside?


Hmmmm...it sure doesn't look very appetizing.  I guess, if one was to equate what's in someone's fridge with their date ability, I'm in trouble. Strike one.

  • Are you a traveler?  Questions like this one get my blood pumping!  I am very passionate about traveling, so, yes, indeed, I am a traveler.  But I'm not necessarily one who likes to go on adventures around the world or anything like that.  At least, I haven't experienced that kind of travel.  I'm a road trip enthusiast, and while I would like to see other parts of the world, my passion is to see THIS country.  I love traveling in the US.  I've been to 41 out of 50 states, and my goal is to take my daughter, who is up to 34 states, to all 50 by the time she's ready to graduate high school.  We're well on our way.  I still need to reach Iowa, North Dakota, Idaho, Alabama, Mississippi, Louisiana, Arkansas, Alaska, and Hawaii.  For my daughter, all of the above, plus Washington, Oregon, Utah, New Mexico, Kansas, Texas, and Minnesota.  Conclusion:  If my date is looking for someone who wants to travel with her to the Amazon, or to somewhere exotic like Thailand or Sri Lanka, I'm probably not your guy.  Strike two.
  • What is your favorite day ever?  This one is easy.  I have two favorite days ever.  The day I got married was such an incredible day spent with all of my loved ones, friends and family alike, where I declared that God is first in my life, and where I committed my love to my wonderful wife, 'til death do us part.  Day two was the day my beautiful daughter was born.  It was an amazing experience watching the miracle of life, this little gift from God, take her first breath, and her first everything.  And while this is what I would say to answer this question, I can only imagine how difficult it would be for my date, who maybe never experienced marriage or childbirth, to hear me talk so glowingly about two major life events that would not be a first time for me ever again.  Strike three.
It appears that these first date questions would likely not result in me getting a second date.  Oh, well.  I will continue my life as a bachelor.  I'm content with my life as it is, and my wonderful daughter seems happy, as well.

Have a great evening, everyone!



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